As an avowed pervert, I feel qualified to weigh in on this. The local swingers hangout here in Philly is just a bar/dance club with the added feature that you can have sex or watch others have sex. Imagine a regular nightclub, but instead of just ogling attractive people you might join them or ask them to join you for some recreational sex. Of course, if public or recreational sex is not a turn-on for you, then you wouldn't like it. I find that most people, though, are voyeuristic enough to want to be that invisible "fly on the wall" and watch. You can actually do that pretty well by going - lots of people go but don't have sex there - but it's expensive. Annual membership at this club (which I think is fairly standard) is $50 and each party is $100 per couple. (You bring your own booze, though, so that saves some pennies.) I think most people acquire a circle of friends they like to do this with and usually go to private parties.
Yes and no. For many people, going out someplace, getting a little drunk and then screwing some attractive stranger(s) who you will never see again would work best. (This is most effective if you go to a city where you don't live.) However, if you want to participate in this activity on any kind of regular basis, this method is hit-or-miss and can sometimes lead to very varied outcomes. I would say that people get into the swinging lifestyle (or BDSM, or whatever) by first going to anonymous, public events and then, when they find they like it, eventually they acquire a circle of friends who they spend time with.
I would love to go--invisibly--and see what goes on.
Well, you could get a taste of it by renting this movie. Interesting documentary, but proof positive that some things are best left to the imagination.
As an avowed pervert, I feel qualified to weigh in on this. The local swingers hangout here in Philly is just a bar/dance club with the added feature that you can have sex or watch others have sex. Imagine a regular nightclub, but instead of just ogling attractive people you might join them or ask them to join you for some recreational sex. Of course, if public or recreational sex is not a turn-on for you, then you wouldn't like it. I find that most people, though, are voyeuristic enough to want to be that invisible "fly on the wall" and watch. You can actually do that pretty well by going - lots of people go but don't have sex there - but it's expensive. Annual membership at this club (which I think is fairly standard) is $50 and each party is $100 per couple. (You bring your own booze, though, so that saves some pennies.) I think most people acquire a circle of friends they like to do this with and usually go to private parties.
Posted by Mithras | Link to this comment | 10- 2-03 12:30 PM
I love this from their website:
If this is all new for you, please have an open and honest conversation with your partner about this lifestyle BEFORE you attend a party.
I must say, I'm not sure I'd like to have a circle of friends that I meet for sex. Isn't it much easier if it's less...you know, personal?
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 10- 2-03 12:37 PM
Yes and no. For many people, going out someplace, getting a little drunk and then screwing some attractive stranger(s) who you will never see again would work best. (This is most effective if you go to a city where you don't live.) However, if you want to participate in this activity on any kind of regular basis, this method is hit-or-miss and can sometimes lead to very varied outcomes. I would say that people get into the swinging lifestyle (or BDSM, or whatever) by first going to anonymous, public events and then, when they find they like it, eventually they acquire a circle of friends who they spend time with.
Posted by Mithras | Link to this comment | 10- 2-03 1:24 PM
Ok, so it's kind of like "settling down."
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 10- 2-03 1:26 PM
I would love to go--invisibly--and see what goes on.
Well, you could get a taste of it by renting this movie. Interesting documentary, but proof positive that some things are best left to the imagination.
Posted by apostropher | Link to this comment | 10- 2-03 1:57 PM
I've heard of that movie, but the clubs mentioned in the article seem to attract a younger crowd. One can hope.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 10- 2-03 2:00 PM