I went to Italy this past spring instead of spending money on a wedding (second time around, it just seemed gratuitous). Hands down, my #1 desired retirement location.
The reason advertisements for diamond rings for engagements was targeted at men when the concept was introduced (and still is, really) was that women would have rather the men spent the money on something sensible, like a down payement on a house.
Does the father of the bride still pay for weddings?
You'll never find out what caused the abuse until you test it. So you should start dating Adam and just change one thing from your previous behavior, and see if he starts abusing you.
You know, I hadn't given this any thought, and I broke up with this woman...gads, about ten years ago, but I was recently alerted to her profile on an online dating site (I think the profile's not up anymore) and you know, god damn it, her profile name was the word that means someone who likes big words (keep it to yourself if you know the word I mean). God, that relationship was doomed.
Yep, in my case my father in law paid. 20k for a relatively small but beautiful weedding. I appreciate it a lot but three years later living in the CA real estate market, I so wish he had given us that money for a down payment.
My fiance and I did the right thing, I guess. We went and bought our house before planning the wedding. A (relatively) reasonable $400k for a 3 bedroom townhouse in Fairfax, VA. Keeps us from being too extravagant on our wedding, but it does kinda take the fun out of planning. Plus, since we bought a (relatively) reasonably priced house, we're shelling out $thousands every month just trying to make it livable. (or at least, not smell like an 80 year old chain smoker)
I went to Italy this past spring instead of spending money on a wedding (second time around, it just seemed gratuitous). Hands down, my #1 desired retirement location.
Posted by apostropher | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 7:04 PM
The reason advertisements for diamond rings for engagements was targeted at men when the concept was introduced (and still is, really) was that women would have rather the men spent the money on something sensible, like a down payement on a house.
Does the father of the bride still pay for weddings?
Posted by ben wolfson | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 8:40 PM
I don't actually own a thesaurus, or an English-English dictionary. Maybe we should date.
Posted by Adam Kotsko | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 9:11 PM
You think I'd buy the same gift for my new sweetie? Not after the abuse I took.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 9:12 PM
You'll never find out what caused the abuse until you test it. So you should start dating Adam and just change one thing from your previous behavior, and see if he starts abusing you.
Posted by ben wolfson | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 9:35 PM
No, it was abuse specifically about the gift, and it went on for years. Nobody's getting a fucking thesaurus from me, ever.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 9:37 PM
and it went on for years.
Well, if you're going to beat a dead horse like that for years, I'd think a thesaurus would be a very useful thing to have.
Posted by apostropher | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 9:57 PM
Right, a simple "Thanks for making it so easy to abuse you" is all I needed, but even that was too much.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 10:01 PM
You know, I hadn't given this any thought, and I broke up with this woman...gads, about ten years ago, but I was recently alerted to her profile on an online dating site (I think the profile's not up anymore) and you know, god damn it, her profile name was the word that means someone who likes big words (keep it to yourself if you know the word I mean). God, that relationship was doomed.
Posted by ogged | Link to this comment | 09-28-04 10:07 PM
Yep, in my case my father in law paid. 20k for a relatively small but beautiful weedding. I appreciate it a lot but three years later living in the CA real estate market, I so wish he had given us that money for a down payment.
Posted by walter | Link to this comment | 09-29-04 12:21 AM
Her profile name was "Sesquipedalianism"? "Sebaceousness"?
Could you gentlemen pass your dates on to me, pleasE?
Whatever their vocabulary, I may have a tongue to match.
Posted by Gary Farber | Link to this comment | 09-29-04 12:35 AM
It's okay, I once bought my girlfriend an Adidas headband for her birthday.
Posted by Jim Teacher | Link to this comment | 09-29-04 7:35 AM
My fiance and I did the right thing, I guess. We went and bought our house before planning the wedding. A (relatively) reasonable $400k for a 3 bedroom townhouse in Fairfax, VA. Keeps us from being too extravagant on our wedding, but it does kinda take the fun out of planning. Plus, since we bought a (relatively) reasonably priced house, we're shelling out $thousands every month just trying to make it livable. (or at least, not smell like an 80 year old chain smoker)
Posted by Cathy | Link to this comment | 09-29-04 11:00 AM
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