I have noticed myself less-and-less inclined to be attracted to these characteristics especially the older I get. It's not that I find them ugly, it's more that other factors crowd them out, and my idea of who's attractive swamps these with other characteristics, mostly having to do with personality.
I suppose you could argue that either way: Now that I'm older I'm not seriously looking for a mate to have children with, even though I think about sex a lot, or it's taken me a virtual lifetime to learn to think beyond cultural norms.
This is just initial attraction of course. In practice how I was received, and what transpired between us, always governed actual pairing, and the attractiveness of girls and women who deviated was borne in even on my adolescent self once I got past that. It may even have been helped, as I was somewhat less bashful and more likely to be talking anyway.
I have noticed myself less-and-less inclined to be attracted to these characteristics especially the older I get. It's not that I find them ugly, it's more that other factors crowd them out, and my idea of who's attractive swamps these with other characteristics, mostly having to do with personality.
I suppose you could argue that either way: Now that I'm older I'm not seriously looking for a mate to have children with, even though I think about sex a lot, or it's taken me a virtual lifetime to learn to think beyond cultural norms.
This is just initial attraction of course. In practice how I was received, and what transpired between us, always governed actual pairing, and the attractiveness of girls and women who deviated was borne in even on my adolescent self once I got past that. It may even have been helped, as I was somewhat less bashful and more likely to be talking anyway.
Posted by i don't pay | Link to this comment | 05-18-06 5:42 AM