It's remarkable how a combination of unapologized assertions to someone that "I hope you die," and expressing the wish to come back if it were clear that one was wanted, but having only about four people bother to say that one is so desired might tend to make one feel unwelcome.
But, to be sure, I can be a bit sensitive about that sort of thing. In certain contexts. Like those in which my death is wished for.
But it's possible it's not that I didn't write enough about it, making my POV clear enough. I should think. Although I am an "asshole," as another site-owner made clear.
For what it's worth, when I saw this in the recent comments sidebar I thought, "Cool! Gary's back!" The person who said "I hope you die" doesn't speak for me or, I suspect, for any of the frequent commenters here. I didn't comment at that post because I didn't want to out my super-secret Blogger profile.
Hi, Gary. Since you asked, seeing your name on the sidebar sometimes makes me wish that &slap; were meaningful, but just as often I'm tempted to buy you another one of those nutty ice cream bars.
I only skimmed your post, "I suck." I skipped many of the addenda, and I didn't read any of the comments. I just want to say that I know a lot about screwy families--though mine may not be quite as screwy as yours (it's still pretty bad), and I understand how raw they can make you emotionally. (Is thus too earnest for unfogged?)
Anyway, it's good to see you back here. I don't really know why you left, and, like you, I don't always read every comment, so I haven't followed the whole saga. But pull up a vitual chair and stay a while anyway.
"Farber has all but disappeared."
It's remarkable how a combination of unapologized assertions to someone that "I hope you die," and expressing the wish to come back if it were clear that one was wanted, but having only about four people bother to say that one is so desired might tend to make one feel unwelcome.
But, to be sure, I can be a bit sensitive about that sort of thing. In certain contexts. Like those in which my death is wished for.
But it's possible it's not that I didn't write enough about it, making my POV clear enough. I should think. Although I am an "asshole," as another site-owner made clear.
Posted by Gary Farber | Link to this comment | 05-12-06 6:09 PM
For what it's worth, when I saw this in the recent comments sidebar I thought, "Cool! Gary's back!" The person who said "I hope you die" doesn't speak for me or, I suspect, for any of the frequent commenters here. I didn't comment at that post because I didn't want to out my super-secret Blogger profile.
Posted by Matt Weiner | Link to this comment | 05-12-06 6:24 PM
Welcome back, Gary. I second Matt's sentiments.
Posted by teofilo | Link to this comment | 05-12-06 6:27 PM
Hi, Gary.
Posted by apostropher | Link to this comment | 05-12-06 6:41 PM
Hi, Gary. Since you asked, seeing your name on the sidebar sometimes makes me wish that &slap; were meaningful, but just as often I'm tempted to buy you another one of those nutty ice cream bars.
Posted by Armsmasher | Link to this comment | 05-12-06 6:47 PM
Gary,
I only skimmed your post, "I suck." I skipped many of the addenda, and I didn't read any of the comments. I just want to say that I know a lot about screwy families--though mine may not be quite as screwy as yours (it's still pretty bad), and I understand how raw they can make you emotionally. (Is thus too earnest for unfogged?)
Anyway, it's good to see you back here. I don't really know why you left, and, like you, I don't always read every comment, so I haven't followed the whole saga. But pull up a vitual chair and stay a while anyway.
Posted by Bostoniangirl | Link to this comment | 05-12-06 9:21 PM