Even the Vows section hasn't given me too much to loathe recently.
My partner's entire department of mostly male surgeons sent the perfect present for lesbians: a generous gift certificate to Home Depot.
This is actually the perfect wedding present for a lot of people. I will keep it in mind!
Dsquared linked to a perfectly awful advice column the other day, but I wouldn't really like to see us analyzing it regularly. I say we bring back Crazy Hometown Letters to the Editor.
It's ridiculous to find that column really depressing, right?
That is pretty good, but not as good as your post, Becks, which is pithy and amusing.
Crazy Hometown Letters to the Editor, seconded. Now that Rauchway seems to have abandoned "above the fold," I require more views of what Real Americans are thinking/reading.
Someone did actually email me their crazy hometown letters to the editor the other day. I'll keep the resurrection in mind.
I had boycotted the weddings of many straight friends (and political allies in our battle for equality), resenting them as one by one they chose to embrace their privilege, leaving us gays and lesbians stranded.
That was douchey.
Well, yeah. OTOH, it really kind of brought home to me, "what, exactly, is the *point* of boycotting marriage?"--whether it's gay people not attending their friends' weddings, or straight people refusing to get married. It seems a nice little capsule example of the pointlessness of irritating moral purity "politics."
Also, yay cerebrocrat, I'm glad you're back! (That rhymes!)
Yes, yes. Of course, ridiculous. It's just life. Forgive me for talking to myself.
Where's the navel-gazing selfishness on the part of the author? I'm disappointed by this mere simple tragedy of lost/betrayed love.
Mostly a maudlin mood brought about by beer, I guess. But after that, the dark tunnel of divorce in places where it wasn't before. Silly, as I said.
I wouldn't say it's ridicuous, or silly. It's bittersweet, certainly, to see the effects of the other side of the double-edged sword. It's hard to watch anybody's dreams flicker out.
(Not making a divorce-lawyer joke here.)
From the mouths of several divorced straight people in my office:
"Gays might as well know the misery that is marriage."
Bonus:
More business!! A non-marriage breakup can be very expensive (ie lucrative to me!!!!)
Just have to live off the past I guess:
For instance, remember "I remember her in her puffy ski jacket and hand-knit wool hat and mittens, lumbering back from sightseeing."?
The marriage boycott is extremely overdetermined, if you have a lick of sense.
You could always dissect The Ethicist. With a real scalpel.
You know, I read that and thought "Becks will find nothing to snark at. And oh, look a new market for will!"
Doubles your potential market.
It was interesting to see the same starter wife dynamic play out.
Well, I found it depressing. why would it be silly to find that really depressing?
Because lesbians are *always* complaining about something?
23: yeah, but isn't THAT depressing too?
The author is a genuinely awesome person whom I have had the pleasure to meet once or twice in the L.A. social justice/politics worlds.
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Doubles your potential market.
Doubles? I'm pretty sure that gays and lesbians don't make up half the population.
I found it depressing, but with a nice bit of het/homo comity: Surgeons are always assholes!
I thought about becoming a surgeon to defy the stereotype, but I realized that being cooped up with surgeons for four years would probably turn me into one of them as well.
It's not just a problem of surgeon's personalities. If you're a young married doctor toiling away through your residency, you are working 80 hours weeks, not including paperwork, and you'll barely see your partner.
Four to seven years later, you'll wake up, realize that you don't actually know a damned thing about your partner that isn't years out of date.
And similar of young lawyers. But they tend to be married to other lawyers, so who is the victim??
Also,for surgeons the solution is always to cut something out.
What did the lesbian say to the asshole surgeon?
"Cut it out!"
Wait, that's not a joke at all.
"Gays might as well know the misery that is marriage."
Between that and the earlier fights over gays in the military, I someimes wonder whether the folks who are in charge of TheGayAgenda™ are drawn mainly from the hardcore masochist wing of the movement.
In the past I have proposed that only women and gay men should be allowed to marry or join the military. Neener-neener, suckers!
I found it depressing, but with a nice bit of het/homo comity: Surgeons are always assholes!
This stereotype comforts me every time I think of the surgeon who got away...